Dear ambitious, driven,
beautiful, successful in their fields, educated single ladies, you are not
"on the shelf" and unable to find a life partner. There are plenty of
men who will jump at the chance to get you house arrested, but you are no longer
willing prisoners. Times have changed and since you don't depend on a man for
anything and are self-sufficient, you are after a compatible life partner you
can respect and be proud to have in your life. So, stop feeling sorry for your eternal singleton.
Finding a true life partner is a rare experience. That someone who challenges you,
supports, loves and respects you and who has his own ambitions and friends. Someone
who doesn’t suffocate and thinks of you as a baby factory and cleaning
lady! A man who can engage your mind, body and soul and who teaches you as much
as he learns new things from you. Don’t get me wrong, this business of soulmate
I think is for 15 year old girls. I am talking about a man for a grown woman,
realistic partnership upon which to build a solid team that can handle anything
which comes their way and share the adventures of life together.
If children are the things
that has forced so many to settle, there are plenty in orphanages who need you
and a loving home. However, those who would prefer to experience a child birth
and have their own biological children, there are plenty of women having babies
by themselves. I don’t know how they do it but they are out there and they have
my respect. For those of you like me with absolutely no plans to be a single
mother, switch off that damn ticking clock and accept nothing good comes
easily. And whatever you do, never settle. Subscribe to Ann Summers if you must but don’t listen to society, preachers or married people about why you should
just find a good enough Joe and settle down. Neither should you pity yourself
for being forever single, it is a choice you made and I know how lonely it can sometimes
be but trust me, better lonely than in an average, dull and
uninspiring relationship. Don’t let the couples with picture perfect images of
their marriage fool you that every married woman is a happy woman. The truth is
often a lot less rosy and complicated. I am not saying they are all miserable
and I hope at least most of them are happy but you get my point. Stay single
and stubborn until you find a partner worth giving up the rewarding freedom that comes with the singleton life for.
